Hi friends, today when the most awaited Hindi movie “Tanu weds manu” is released; I am dedicating my blog to this movie:). The debate over above subject does not have any end. In this post, I am neither supporting nor opposing any particular marriage style. But I am trying to bring and highlight some humor (with respect to my understanding) hidden in this debate.
I always think that why people call it “love marriage” (so called)? Does arranged marriage (so called) not have a love factor in it? In fact when partners arrange their marriage and not the parents, it is called love marriage and when parents arrange a marriage for their children, it is called arranged marriage. Now when both the type has an “arrangement” regarding marriage style, who will decide that, which marriage style contains love and which does not? Even I am not sure about the best nomenclature for the so called love marriage:).
In today’s world, both the generations find this debate as the easiest way to decide anybody’s mentality and attitude. New generation thinks that those, who support arranged marriage, have a narrow mentality and they don’t want to grow up with the society. For them, arranged marriage is like a fairness cream, imposed by parents, to bring some glow on the child’s face. It hardly gives a quick result but if it suits it may add and maintain some glow to their face but if it does not, reaction on the skin (Life, in this context) will be the worst ever. So it contains more risk factor. At the same time vice versa is also true when it comes to the evaluation of love marriage by our older generation. They think that love marriage is more like a foundation cream on your face which can give a quick glow but does not last longer. After sometime the glow disappears from your face and your skin tone (Life, in this context) looks darker than original. So it has more attraction in starting but no stability factor in long run.
Being an IT guy, I always try to relate computer science fundamentals to the real world processes and hence to both the marriage style also. After listening to many discussions and experiences, I find love marriage as a project where you define and implement your business functions in advance without any requirement gathering and documentation. These functions may be love letter writing, talking on phone, movies show etc. But when you execute your program (marriage), suddenly you come to know that client’s (partner’s) requirements and expectations are changing with time. Since you have implemented many functions already, changing any functionality can break the whole program and your system (life) may crash. In fact this is a project where you yourself are the analyst, architect, manager and developer all in one but not a tester. The testers are your partner and your family members. Since testers and developers relations are world famous so I need not to give stress on the testing effort by these experienced testers. This kind of project surely contains many challenges, less opportunity to explore but has lot of excitements in terms of team work (which is mostly single handled).
On the other hand, arranged marriage is the project which is well written, documented and executed after following a software development model. Right from requirement gathering till user acceptance testing, this project follows each step very consciously. In this, client requirements are clearly mentioned. Before taking any decision you check the feasibility of the project, then prepare architecture, define some functions and start following and implementing those. Your role is limited to a developer who can do some limited unit testing also. Managers, architects and testers are your family members. But since you have a focused role now, chances of less faulty functions and hence a stable product is higher. This project has lot of opportunities to explore but it seems less challenging and less exciting in terms of team work.
But in both approach there is risk of system failing over time. But this is the game of life..I also agree with you that the later approach (Arrange Marriage) is better as lots of prerequisites are not needed. But the important part in both cases is the maintenance of the system (i.e have love and understanding among each other) without which you can get System error, runtime error, dump improper shutdown etc etc..
ReplyDeleteI never really believed in arranged marriage,but somehow it seems to work. What would you personally prefer?
ReplyDelete@Nil sir- you are right sir..thats what i have mentioned at last that mutual understanding is required:)...@Raka- I prefer to take challenges:)
ReplyDeleteiwill prefer both bas ladki achi honi chahiye......love hui to so for so good nhi to arrange me bhi pyar karne ka apna maza hai .....bas life ko possitivly lena ana chahiye :)
ReplyDeleteRab ne bana di zodi.
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ReplyDeleteBoth marriage styles you are treating as project. That is very nice. But I think love marriage projects are taken by product based company and arranged marriage project are taken by service based company.
Here product based projects are always based on new concepts and new invents. Projects are always done for company itself, so it does not require any document. It requires lot of challenges.
On the other hand, service based projects are always based on some pre defined concepts. There are no challenges in this project. But it definitely delivers on time. Here lot of documents is required because at end project behavior will be checked by document wise. Client won’t accept even if button colors are different.
But problem is if you have your own product but you are going to take service based product for your business then your product, your invents, your capabilities will always disturb your business.
@Sukanata- kya baat hai dada---new angle of thought:) But I am telling you, product companies are even very particular about documentation and predefined processes:)
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